"No, this is just a circumstance, this is just something that is happening in your life right now. It is not your identity. It doesn’t make you who you are, it doesn’t define you. This is a thing, a very hurtful thing, yes. And it is a thing you are going to overcome, just like the countless other things I’ve seen you overcome. This is not who you are. Who you are is a fighter, and a damn good one at that. So get out there and fight like hell."
Nicole (my lovely therapist)